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Bella here 👋🏼 *TRIGGER WARNING*

Today has been a really hard day for me - mentally and emotionally. One of those days where i’m just ready to hang up the towel on doing what i love (photography)

. I struggle with boarderline personality disorder - so i feel every emotion on 100% at least once a day and don’t necessarily even know why in the moment. My medications help but only to a degree - there is no actual medication specifically for this diagnosis, it is a diagnosis that you cannot be born with - it is not hereditary: it is a trauma based disorder - meaning you developed it over years of prolonged trauma such as abuse, neglect, assault and other similar situations. It is literally our brain rewiring itself to function on a completely different frequency because of trauma.


Anywho - because of this i struggle to regulate my emotions, or understand where…


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Stuxx
Stuxx
Aug 27

First off, I'm just sorry. I'm sorry that loss is part of your story and a scar you carry.


Second, thank you. Thank you for offering back the same vulnerability and openness you created this space for in the first place. It's easier to breathe with the windows open. I hope this is inspiration for others here to keep opening them. I won't pretend to know the first thing about a BDP diagnosis. But I will say that I've experienced sudden, traumatic loss and I've seen friends and family work through it in so many different ways that I can 100% understand a body holding on to things while the mind tries everything to shut it out. I lost my Mom suddenly 7 years ago and I can relate to the feeling of waves upon waves. Just when you think you've weathered the worst of it, something happens or you notice an absence at a holiday, another wave breaks, and you find yourself screaming at the dash in your car because that's the only acceptable way to let something that raw out in our sterile society where a perfect front is the expectation. Maybe your experience is different, but even so, I see you and I applaud you for wearing it and showing the cracks and hurt in this space. No person is an island, and we're all better when we see, understand, and encourage one another. All I can offer beyond some small bit of understanding is a little encouragement. For what it's worth, the work of yours that I've seen here is stellar. I've got so much respect for what you and Trevor both do and say in this space. And I'm extremely proud to be here with such quality people. Sometimes it's hard to have pride in the things we put so much heart and soul into. Especially when inevitable criticism comes. We get caught up in feeling like it's never enough and we forget to look back and see how far we've come. Don't forget no matter what level you're at, there are always people looking up to you. Whether it's your kids wanting to do everything you do or someone just starting with photography and digital media or someone quietly watching the way you handle your own grief and treat other people in the process, you're an inspiration to more people than you'll ever know. You may not always get it right and there will always be failures and setbacks, but you deserve to be proud of your work and you're setting a quality example every time you take another step forward.


You're doing it right. We see you.


-T

The Home Stretch

Where am I at right now?


Truthfully, I feel stretched thin, ragged, and ready to just turn it in and hide for a while. My second little boy is due in early September and I've been riding the razor's edge near physical and mental burnout since well before April.

 

See, we found out we were pregnant on New Year's Eve. This kiddo was prayed for and hoped for through loss and heartache for nearly two years. Finding out was a massive surprise and the best start to the new year we ever could have asked for. But with the excitement also came stress. What if we experienced another loss? What if we went to another ultrasound appointment and didn't see a heartbeat? What if things didn't go well? What if? I feel like I've been holding my breath all year waiting for something to go wrong and I know…


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I don’t have a lot to say other than you are doing a great job. Keep going. Keep showing up. And keep being that man your family knows you are and the inner little boy always wanted to be. This is inspiring far beyond anything you could imagine. We’re all proud of you fam. Lock on and lock in my guy. You got this.

Mental health checkpoint

How are you doing, really? If you don’t feel comfortable commenting - please feel free to inbox us if you need to talk.


The world is a better place with you in it 🫶🏼

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MrPopups
Aug 19

doing good work sucks. not enough time in the day etc

The Mid-Summer Burn

No, I'm not talking about from the Sun, I'm talking about the "Ahhh man, I gotta wash the f*cking truck again" and the "Why do I do this sh*t" time of year.


Well it's that time of year again. We've reached the point where I am sweating out of every orifice of my body trying to get the ride ready for the 3rd meet of the week, after work, dad and husband duties, as I drop another 10mm socket into the Abyss of broken dreams and think of selling my stuff and buying a nice sensible car.


I'm sure we all reach this point, but what keeps us going back to the abuse, like Tina to Ike? I'll explain....well, at least why I do, and how I keep mustering up the strength to push on and wash and wax the bitch, one more time. This summer has been a lot…


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This is beautifully written man!

Support.

Let’s get some discussion going today! When it comes to garage therapy the first thing people think of, is using the project in your garage AS a therapudic outlet. But what comes with that is typically: you, alone in your garage listening to music and turning wrenches to avoid your thoughts or problems.

Here, we wanna address them. Bring your issues to the table, mental health, financial burdens, family stresses. We want to create a community that allows one another to thrive within themselves, regardless of their struggles. Let’s support one another! What have you been struggling with lately that you could get off your chest? Post it in the comments and lets come together and show support to one another.

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If we’re all being honest building this club was the only thing that pulled me out of a two-year disassociation depressive episode. Felt like I was getting too old and time was running out and wanted to genuinely help people and I never knew how being able to turn my passion for helping people in the automotive community into what it has become with Midnight pretenders literally saved my life.

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Weekend thoughts

Hey crew — quick reminder before the weekend hits:

Not every bolt has to be torqued to spec, not every build has to be perfect, and not every day has to be productive. Sometimes just showing up to the garage, putting some music on, and zoning out with a ratchet in your hand is enough. Don’t overthink it. This is therapy, not a competition. ✌️🛠️

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Definitely keeping that in mind need to wire my high fan to a toggle switch on my car to help keep it cooled down

Crazy Times

Crazy Times out there! Sometimes you might just need to talk to someone to make sense out of things. So, if you’re in need of a shoulder, and ear or even a kidney, holla at ya boy! I’m not a therapist but I listen without judgement and sometimes, I give sage advice. Anywho, you’re not alone!


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The world needs more of it! All people really need some time. It’s just an ear and a little bit of compassion can go a long way.🫶🏻

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